Are You Contemplating Divorce?
Before…. During…. After Divorce
Before The Separation or Divorce
You just started thinking or you can’t stop thinking about separation or divorce and want to speak to someone confidentially who will NOT judge you, tell you what to do or tell you his/her story about getting divorced.
You are questioning, “What would getting divorced mean to me?”; “Is divorce the right thing for me?”; and “Who can I talk to who will be neutral and listen to my side?”.
You may be asking yourself, “Would I be happier single or in a different relationship?”; “Is this a healthy relationship?” or “When or how can the arguing stop?”
You may be worried about how are you going to pay the bills when your partner leaves or you leave your partner.
You may wonder how to tell your children about the “New Arrangement”.
Many people thinking about separation or divorce have many questions, fears, concerns and doubts about what to do, and don’t know where to turn.
You don’t need to feel alone through this time, and you deserve to get the support you need.
If you decide to proceed with a separation or divorce, then I can support you through the different steps, and if you decide to stay married and work on the relationship I can help you with the skills and tools you need to have a healthier marriage (Please see Couples Therapy section).
You don’t need to make a decision right now.
When you seek counseling you can obtain clarity about which direction you should proceed.
During The Separation or Divorce
If you decide to separate or divorce, it may feel like a rollercoaster ride during the process. The ups and downs are inevitable, so by seeking counseling, you are in the best position to move forward with your life and not get stuck in anger, frustration, and resentment.
You will not feel alone because you can share the ups and downs and “dump out” all of the issues that arise while in the mediation or divorce process around financial matters, child custody, co-parenting and spousal support-just to name a few.
You can vent about the challenges and frustrations with the legal system and process; HOWEVER, with the “right support” it doesn’t have to be awful and terrible.
You learn how to remain emotionally healthy and be connected to lawyers and mediators who are on YOUR side and want to help you move through the process with less drama.
You will be comforted by the exercises we perform to help nurture and soothe you and create healing instead of trauma.
After The Divorce
Now that your marriage has ended, you are beginning a new chapter in your life.
The rollercoaster ride of divorce is closing, but may leave you with other questions, uncertainty and feelings you haven’t experienced in a long time.
For example, you may experience feelings of sadness, pain or excitement and happiness when you come home to an empty apartment or home.
Many feelings and emotions may be triggered when you have to figure out how to handle things on your own.
The weekends can also be an adjustment after being married.
Through this transition, you do not have to take this journey alone without support and guidance.
After The Divorce
You will learn how to start over and how to move forward, living a successful and happy life.
If you want to consider dating again, you can learn how to make healthy choices when picking a partner. Dating after a divorce, can bring up many emotions, so you can process those feelings and address them immediately.
After the divorce, you may still need support and help processing your marriage and the divorce, and you can receive the guidance you need to live a happy, satisfied life.